Avoiding Negativity

Avoiding Negativity

Philippians 4:8-9
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
What are negative people?
Negative people can be real downers in any conversation. No matter what you say, they have a way of spinning things in a negative direction. Some negative people can be so negative that it feels draining just being around them.
The reality is that many people feed off of negativity and they just don’t feel right if they aren’t griping about something.

1. Change your Language
Try avoiding words like “never” and “always” for a day. Instead of saying that you can never do something right, say that you’ve struggled with it in the past, but will do what you can to change that.
2. Take Action
A lot of the negativity that comes out of a person’s mouth is a direct result of their thoughts. If you’re constantly thinking negatively about someone or a situation, then the first words from your mouth will be negative. Instead, take action to change those negative thoughts instead of letting them simmer in your mind. Complete that project or go talk to the person that is causing you to have negative thoughts.
3. Avoid Gossip
This may be the most difficult one because it is human nature to get juicy details on someone when they aren’t there. All that leads to are negative thoughts about that person or people, which isn’t good for anyone. The next time you are hanging out with your family or friends, declare it a “gossip-free day” and see what else can be talked about.
4. Do Things that Make You Happy
If you aren’t happy, then you will naturally think negatively. Instead, do things that you like to do. Go play golf or ride a bike or whatever it is that takes you to your happy place. You will be able to reduce the negative energy that you have and get some positive thinking going through your mind.
5. Random Acts of Kindness
If you’re having one of those days where you just want to get away from the world, try to brighten someone else’s day. These random acts of kindness can be as simple as helping someone put groceries into their car, or even paying for their coffee without them knowing. You may not think it right now, but you will feel a lot better when you know you made someone else’s day a little better.
6. Write Down Negative Thoughts
This one will really surprise you. Every time you are sitting at home or at work and have a negative thought, make a conscious effort to write down that thought. Then at the end of the day, review what you wrote down and rephrase them into positive sentences. If you are a natural negative thinker, then the list may be too long to go through, or you may not even realize that you’re thinking negatively because it is natural. Practice doing this for a week and you will realize how often you have negative thoughts throughout the day.
7. Don’t Take Things Personally
When you are practicing being more positive, you will become more aware of the negative people around you. Any time you hear someone speaking in a negative tone to you or someone else, just smile and know that you aren’t like that anymore. Smiling and making light of negative situations will make you feel much better and put up a barrier that won’t allow negativity to enter into your mind.

Below are 5 ways to remain positive around negative people we cannot avoid or don’t want to remove from our lives.
Don’t take it personally.
Remain grateful for what is going well.
Remind yourself that everyone has their own journeys.
View this challenge as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
Spend time alone.
Its human nature to have negativity at times, but the successful people in the world are able to conquer it. Nothing good can come out of being negative, so why waste your energy on it? Come to the realization that you can think negative thoughts, but turn them into positives. Once you are able to do that, you will be on your way to leading a more happy and successful career and personal life.

We can no longer sail with the world’s wind and expect a better life and promising future for our children, ourselves and communities. For an aircraft to increase in altitude, it must fly against the wind. As Christian men, we must fly against personal, tumultuous world-winds to propel our families and communities to higher ground in God’s Kingdom



“What you see and hear depends a good deal on where you are standing. It also depends on what sort of a person you are.” C.S. Lewis

Leadership’s Greatest Challenge:

  • NOT Finances
  • NOT Personnel
  • NOT Facilities
  • NOT People
  • NOT Recognition

Leadership’s greatest challenge is “GROWTH LEADERSHIP.” Is growing as a leader.

2 Timothy 2:15 “study to show yourself approved unto God “““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““““`

“The moment you stop learning, you stop leading.” John Maxwell


What is the ministry of the church, the leader, and the congregation?

Paul exhorts:

The church is a ministry of reconciliation that invites persons to participate in the new creation in Christ. Such a ministry requires that the church model the Christ way of life.

Ministry is not about building one’s own power, authority and profit.


Ministry is: 2 Corinthians …

  • Giving self, in suffering love for others (6: 4-10).
  • Emptying self to make life available as a vessel for God’s power (4: 7).
  • Carrying forward the ministry of Christ, bearing the marks of Christ (4: 10).
  • About trusting God and not our own ability (3: 4-6).



The winner is always part of the answer. The loser is always part of the problem.

The winner always has a program. The loser always has an excuse.


The winner says, let me do it for you. The loser says, that’s not my job.

The winner sees an answer in every problem. A loser sees a problem in every answer.


The winner says, it may be difficult, but it’s possible. A loser says, it may be possible, but it’s too difficult.


A winner listens… A loser just waits until it is his turn to talk.


When a winner makes a mistake, he says, I was wrong. When a loser makes a mistake, he says, it wasn’t my fault.


A winner says, “I’m good, but not as good as I could be.” A loser says, “I’m not as bad as a lot of people.”

A winner feels responsible for more than his job. A loser says, “I only work here.”


Colossians 3:23-24 “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.” NIV


There are four essential components to being a winning team.



Games are won or lost between the ears before any player reaches the field. A team’s performance can rise no higher than the level of its thinking. The mindset of a team sets the ceiling of the team’s achievements. Thoughts are either limiting or liberating, empowering or paralyzing. A team must think like winners to be winners.



Every great achievement is fueled by passion. Passion changes losers into winners. Passion makes possible the impossible. Passion is the energy of the soul, the fire in one’s belly.



A large portion of your life is automatically run by your habits. It has been estimated by experts that 80% of everything we do from the time we get up until we go to bed is out of habit. A habit helps us to repeat behavior automatically without having to think or to learn all over again. A habit is a thought or action that we have repeated until it has become automatic, and we do it without stopping to decide.



All of the following must culminate in action:








King David instructed his son Solomon, “Consider now, for the Lord has chosen you to build a temple as a sanctuary. Be strong and do it.” (1 Chron. 28: 10)

The plans for the temple had been drawn, the material gathered, and the workers assembled. Now it was time for Solomon to “Be strong and do it.”


Take the plow in your hand and go for it. “No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.” (Luke 9: 62)

WSAN – What South Africa Needs

“To identify persons (leaders) who are recognized as having high morals and good business ethic. Leaders who encourage to publish their values, visions and victories, promoting Godly principles as their essence of true success. Through their testimonies, these persons must carry out their responsibilities as role models who will inspire others, especially our youth, to strive for the best and to develop good values for life.”

Proverbs 2: 6-8

“For the Lord gives wisdom, and from His mouth come knowledge and understanding. He holds victory in store for the upright, He is a shield to those whose walk is blameless, for He guards the course of the just and protects the way of His faithful ones.”


TEXT: 1 Kings 18: 17-46

Introduction: Elijah announced a drought in 1 Kings 17:1, “There shall not be neither dew nor rain these few years, except at my word.”

Israel’s sin is the cause for the drought.


  1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY (18:17), “Then it happened, when Ahab saw Elijah, that Ahab said to him, Is that you, O troubler of Israel?” Ahab refused to take responsibility for his role in causing Israel’s drought, spiritually and literally. The nation was hurting.
  2. RESTORE OBEDIENCE (18:18), “I have not troubled Israel, but you and your father’s house have, in that you have forsaken the commandments of the Lord and have followed Baal.” Obedience brings the blessing of God, while disobedience dries it up. According to Deut. 28 the blessings are conditioned. “And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, because you obey the voice of the Lord your God” 28:2. The Lord will open to you His good treasure, the heavens, to give the rain to your land in its season – If you heed the commandments of the Lord your God, which I command you today, and are careful to observe them” Deut. 28:12-13.
  3. BE DECISIVE (18:21), “How long will you falter between two opinions? If the Lord is God, follow Him, but if Baal, follow him, but the people answered not a word.” You can’t serve two masters. “A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways” James 1:8. “One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words. It is expressed in the choices one makes.”
  4. RETURN TO THE ALTAR (18:30), “And he repaired the altar of the Lord that was broken down.”

“How shall we escape if we neglect so great a salvation, which at first began to be spoken by the Lord and was confirmed to us by those who heard Him” Heb. 2:3. Neglect means, to be careless; make light of; not regard.

  1. MAKE THE SACRIFICE (18:33), “And he put the wood in order, cut the bull in pieces, and laid it on the altar.”

God’s people need to “cut the bull” and place it on the altar of sacrifice. (Pun intended)

  1. REMOVE THE IDOLS (18:37), “Answer me, O LORD, answer me, so these people will know that you, O LORD, are God, and that you are turning their hearts back again.” An idol is anything that cools our passion for Christ. Idols are destroyed when the Lord is returned to His rightful place in our hearts.
  2. ENJOY THE RAIN (18:41) “Go up, eat and drink: for there is the sound of abundance of rain.” Ahab went off to eat and drink.

CONCLUSION: Elijah went and sat on top of Mount Camal, put his head between his kness, sent his messenger to go and look toward the sea. He came back with the message that “there is nothing”. Go and look again, which the servant did seven times. On the seventh time, he brought back a message saying, “A cloud as small as a man’s hand is rising from the sea” (18:44).

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” Matthew 6: 33